Why Does the Sexy Have to Stop After Kids

So yesterday I was talking with some Mommy friends and the topic of lingerie came up. I don’t think I have ever seen a conversation go awkward so fast.

One mom said since having kids she doesn’t even look at it anymore. Another Mom talked about never even owning a piece and that she was a mom now why does she need it.

It got me thinking, why does being a Mom sometimes make us not sexy, or not want to be sexy? Why does it have to stop after we have kids?

Why Does the Sexy Have to Stop After Kids

It took me a long time to love my body for what it is. It had nothing to do with my kids as I was a big girl before them. But with my first I gained a little bit more weight which put a damper on things. I often hid behind this facade that I was okay with it, I would make jokes about myself and everyone would laugh. But in the end I never felt sexy, I didn’t even know what the word sexy meant, I mean how do you define it.

In the dictionary they define the word sexy as “Very exciting or appealing”. That definition could fit many things. Sexy lingerie, sexy shoes, sexy pants. I mean almost anything can be defined by the wrods exciting and appealing. So how do you define sexy?

All I am saying is we don;t need to stop that “sexy” feeling we get when we put on some make-up, lingerie, or some new pants that make our butts look great. Sexy isn’t defined by a certain style, I mean my hubby looks amazing dressed up, or in sweatpants, a t-shirt and some scruff on his face. That is the best part, we get to define our own sexy and it doesn’t need to stop once we have kids.

I am just saying….yes we are moms but we are also still sexy, fierce women!


  1. Ali P

    December 5, 2017 at 10:30 am

    I don’t feel sexy sometimes because I’m too busy being tired. lol.. Sleep trumps sex.


      December 5, 2017 at 1:21 pm

      Yup, I had this conversation yesterday also. I have decided that if I do that all the time then sex will never happen LMAO

  2. kathy downey

    December 5, 2017 at 1:41 pm

    Doing anything that makes you feel good about yourself can help make you feel sexy,new hair,nightie..etc.

  3. Julie Bedard

    December 6, 2017 at 10:34 am

    I think being sexy is related to be happy, or confident or nice….ect…..if you show you are happy you will be perceived as happy, if you show you are confident you will be seen as confident and so on… if you think and feel you are sexy the you will be seen as sexy. But yes I know it’s hard sometimes to be.

  4. Treen Goodwin

    December 6, 2017 at 10:43 am

    its so true , you really have to make time for it , nice meal wine and a sexy nighty , spice it up a bit 🙂


      December 6, 2017 at 1:05 pm

      You had me at wine;)

      1. kathy downey

        December 10, 2017 at 2:05 pm

        She had me at wine too,oh yes if i drink enough…lol

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